In Paradisum

Why am I always upset when there is no church service, no requiem mass or funeral service, when we say our farewells to our loved ones, to people we have known? I need to hear In Paradisum te deducant angeli, not the Beatles' Yesterday. A life has to make sense, needs a connection with the past and the future. The end should not be a hole in the ground, a deep and dark pit swallowing up life. Neither an all-consuming fire which leaves us with just a handfull of ashes.  Life should be passed on from one generation to another. Otherwise, what is the point?